Snow and ice here today. School closures and delayed flights. Didn't matter to my daughter as she had no school anyway. However, she is having a time getting home from visiting her sister. The flight was delayed and then delayed again. So when I texted her to ask her ETA she answered back "Never!" How well I know the feeling. A four hour delay in Ft. Lauderdale coming back from San Jose.
Got a call from my sister last night, but happy to say did not budge an inch and gave as good as I got. However, the sister called and got the doctor's number and has arranged for a nurse to come and evaluate my mother tomorrow. Very kind of her...she will let me know the time. Received a text at work about the evaluation.. I called several facilities, spoke to one marketing specialist and will tour the place tomorrow. Left two other messages.
I will not talk to my sister about my mother's care when I am training. It is upsetting and I can't focus.
My sister upset me so much that I teared up at work in front of my coworkers. Nice! As my coworker said to tell my sister, "Since you want to take over this project, I will step back and you can make all the arrangements." However, she infuriates me and I told my father so. I noticed she was over at the house, but did not stop by. My sister is not so concerned about my mother as worried about my father. And she does not see that when one separates a couple who have been together for 65 years, that both will pay a toll.
My original plan was to talk to various skilled care facilities. Then with the help of a doctor or nurse prepare my mother and father for the move. Let them get used to the idea. Then expedite the move and help both adjust. Is my nose out of joint? We discussed this at work and perhaps it is. But my father cannot say no to his favorite daughter (my sister) and I am the only advocate for my mother.
Sister also said that my brother wants to be in on the decision.
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