Family tragedy

On Christmas Eve, I came home from work to some tragic news. My son, who had just arrived from his home in Chicago, told me that I had better sit down, that he had some very sad news. I thought he was going to tell me that he had been diagnosed with cancer. The truth was that we lost my great nephew, my husband's brother's grandson, my niece's son. He was 21 years old and lost his life on Dec 23. The life of his family and friends changed forever. This tragedy certainly took my mind off the loss of my mother. My husband and I drove to the visitation on Tuesday evening and my husband and all the adult children and spouses went to the memorial service on Wednesday. My brother in law said that he was angry, kids showing off. Life can change in an instant. My friend was angry too, because I wouldn't drive her somewhere. She angrily said, And I thought we were friends!" I told her that we have been friends since she was in high school and that I was friends with her parents too. It appears to me that I am considered a friend only if I do exactly what she wants. Another friend is doing what she wants. She told me yesterday that she needs a guardian so that she does not have to make decisions. I didn't know that she wanted someone to make decisions for her. I wrongly assumed that she yearned to be independent. I am planning on a quiet evening, need to come to terms with all the changes in my life this year. Hoping and praying for a healthy, happy prosperous 2017 for all.