Doing Things With My Husband

Last evening, my husband and I went on a date. We went to the theater and watched Star Trek in 3D. He got a hearing device so he could chuckle at the dialogue. I enjoyed the movie and an activity with my husband. But today, I became annoyed because he had taken my driver license renewal form downstairs to the den. I was rather shrewish when I asked him why he had taken it downstairs. It made no sense to me, but must have seemed logical to him. I also have to renew my car plate and buy a new plate for his car. I will do this, though I don't know the style of plate he wants. And mixed up in my head is the idea that he will rant because I spend money, even though it is on plates. I delegate about 1/3 of my check on flowers for my mother, coffee and bagels, hapkido and riding. The rest of my check, he spends. He finds decision-making difficult. Very frustrating for me because I go to a lot of trouble and then he changes his mind. He says that I can't "go with the flow." But this isn't about complaining about my husband, because he can't help it. It is about learning to relate to my husband in a non-threatening manner. It is virtually impossible to carry on a conversation because there are too many hazards. So perhaps it would be better to let him do the talking, although he is more inclined to put on his earphones and watch TV. So, now I am back to the beginning of this post. I will ask him out on more dates and build a relationship by doing things together. Having a good time, smiling and laughing should lift both our spirits.