Saturday, December 21, 2019
Struggles
I have been struggling the last few weeks. The struggles began when I asked my husband if we could replace the carpet. It is 33 years old and has barely survived the kittens/puppies, geriatric cats/dogs that we've housed through the years. All I wanted was new carpet. However my husband said that if we replaced the carpet, we needed to replace some molding the animals scratched and paint the interior of the house. And if we painted the walls and trims, everyting had to be taken downstairs. Of course we got more than we bargained for. The painter suggested sealing any spots where the animals had accidents. When we built the house we laid plywood and then nailed fiberboard over te plywood in the living room and dining room.. Moisture destroys fiberboard, so now we need to replace pieces of subfloor in the living room and dining room. Hopefully, the subfloor work can be finished Monday and the carpet installed on Friday. The carpet is down in the bedrooms. I feel that I have dealt well with all this. I concentrated on decorating the bushes and porch with lights, wrote Christmas cards, wrapped gifts. Opening gifts on a fiberboard floor and enjoying the tree for 2 days before Christmas is only a minor inconvenience. The struggle is with the naysaying of my husband. I feel that no matter what I say my husband says no. "No, we can't move the chair in preparation for the carpet people because we need it for Christmas. No, we can't put down carpet remnants because the pieces might be slated for use. No, you can't buy a little runaway trailer, because we don't need two trailers and there is no storage space. I can't think of any other examples because rather than dwell on them, I try to forget. In his defense I feel that his heart medication has changed his personality making him more confrontational and impairing his memory. We went on a date to a model train exhibit and out to dinner. As long as I agree with everything he says and listen to his every word he thrives.
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